sex

Are Your Sex Toys Bodysafe?

‘Detox Your Sex Life’ – the title of an article on Gwyneth Paltrow’s Goop at first glance seems ludicrous. How earth could sex ever be toxic? Is this just another part of a culture which is selling us unnecessary products under the guise of detoxification, and on the premise that …

When Your Body Doesn’t Love Sex as Much as You

The CHRONICles is a fortnightly column by Caroline Marie McDonagh-Delves and Rachel Charlton-Dailey discussing life with chronic illness, chronic pain and disability. Content warning: this column will regularly discuss ableism and topics relating to disability. Please note: This piece contains adult content and is NSFW. — IF YOU ARE RELATED TO THE WRITER OF THIS PIECE, PLEASE …

The Importance of Good Sex Education

I’m a 14 year old girl in an RE classroom in the roughest high school in the area. Apparently we have the highest teenage pregnancy rate in Europe; but I’ve heard that about most areas. I’m with the top set group as usual, so it’s assumed that we’ll be the …

Cat Person and the Culture of Bad Sex

This weekend, a short story ran in The New Yorker that has given many food for thought. Cat Person is the fictional story of a woman who has a bad sexual encounter with someone she had little interest in. Before and during the encounter, which she consents to, she changes …

My Vagina Doesn’t Work

Hello, I’m Louise, I’m Scottish, I’m twenty-two, I own a tiny cat who is currently yelling right into my ear, and, oh yeah, my vagina doesn’t work. Well, no, that’s not true – it performs a good chunk of the functions that a vagina is meant to. But when it …

How to Write Believable Sex Scenes

Earlier in the month I had the pleasure of attending a talk on “Writing True Sex” with Monique Roffey, the author of The Tryst, and Leone Ross, one of my favourite lecturers and author of her new short story series, Come Let us Sing Anyway. I came in 20 minutes …

Period Sex: How to Navigate it (If You Want to)

I recently read an article that discussed whether period sex is okay for a first-time hookup or not. The article asked both men and women, but was honestly kind of confusing. There was no real conclusion, the author just collected people’s opinions. I guess it was an interesting read, but with a …

Contraception and Me: The Morning After Pill

“Contraception and Me” speaks to real people about their contraception experiences and gives you their honest answers. Each month, we’ll look at a different kind of contraception. This month, we’re looking at the morning after pill. — There are two different types of “morning-after pill”, known as Levonelle and ellaOne …

Sex After Sexual Assault

TW: explicit discussion of sexual assault. The first time I experienced penetrative sex, it was rape. This is the first time ever I have been able to type that sentence using the ‘R’ word. I have yet to say it out loud. I was in a relationship with a boy that …