sexual assault

Why Hannah Gadsby’s Nanette Is So Powerful

When I tell people the best comedy show I have ever watched made me cry – no, sob – for over an hour, I am met with confusion. Nanette was the show which was supposed to end Hannah Gadsby’s career in comedy. Instead, it has become a seminal piece of …

Roxane Gay’s Hunger Challenges Toxic Societal Norms

Trigger Warning: Discussion of rape, difficult relationships with food Roxane Gay’s memoir, Hunger, is intensely moving. And although she refers to it as a “confession”, it can undoubtedly be considered a personal story with implications for us all. Gay confronts the unimaginable pain of her past with bravery, and in …

Ed Sheeran May Have Got the Grammy, but Kesha’s My Winner

Trigger warning: suicide, mental illness, trauma, sexual assault and rape I’m not the first to write about Kesha and I sure as hell won’t be the last, but here’s the truth: Kesha saved my life. Last summer, after many long years dealing with complex PTSD that had never been diagnosed …

Time’s Up for Performative Allyship

At the 75th Golden Globes award ceremony, almost every single guest in attendance was wearing black. Supposedly, the choice of hue was more than a simple fashion statement, and was actually a display of solidarity against the culture of misogyny, abuse and sexual assault that has been allowed to run …

Should We Separate the Art From the Artist?

It’s amazing to see survivors finally being able to come forward and name their abusers. It’s even more incredible to see fellow survivors being believed and action being taken against their assailants. However, each new #MeToo story that emerges where the accused is a prominent actor, musician or writer brings with it an …

Here’s to the Silence Breakers (and the Dawn of a New Age?)

There’s a question that’s been asked in hushed, don’t-jinx-it tones since the Weinstein case broke and the floodgates opened. Something that we’ve always thought out of reach, because it was just ‘the way things are’, but is now starting to seem like a plausible reality. On social media platforms, in …

Should We Name and Shame Abusers on Social Media?

A few years ago, my friend’s and I crowded into the toilet cubicle at a pub that we all frequented and wrote a list of names on the wall. Our toilet graffiti was finished with a heading “list of men to avoid” — an idea ripped from the pages of …

Stop Making Me Relive My Sexual Assault

Trigger warning: Abuse, assault, rape, rape threats and alluding to Harvey Weinstein and the Twitter situation. — Friends, I’m exhausted. I’m emotionally exhausted from reliving my trauma every day on social media. I’m exhausted on behalf of all women and non binary folks that have to constantly share their stories …